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The Fruit of the Spirit (Pt.5): Patience

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My wife, Lindsi and I, are fellow students in the school of patience. We answered and discussed some questions about patience. We discussed how God will bring many opportunities to develop patience into the lives of his children.  Marriage and parenthood are two wonderful opportunities we have to discover our need for patience.  Continue reading and learn more about this wonderful quality that the Holy Spirit wants to grow in all of us.

Question: You don’t have to follow Jesus to learn to be patient, so what is different about the patience God gives and grows in you?

Lindsi: The difference is the relationship with God. Honoring Him is our motivation, and that is what produces godliness in us.  God puts us in situations—or whatever circumstances are in our story at a moment—and we want to honor him.  He uses that to chip away at rough edges, to sanctify us.  People who aren’t believers may have or develop patience in a situation, but their motivation and view of it is different.  While they might be becoming “better people” through it, they don’t have God working within them to change their heart.  But, I believe honoring God is what makes Christian patience different.

Josh: I agree.  You might find lots of patient people who don’t know Jesus, and lots of impatient Jesus followers, but the difference is the heart.  Both groups might acknowledge that they need patience, but those in Christ understand that the beginning and end are with Jesus.  Jesus starts the work, and what grows here glorifies God now and into eternity. 

Lindsi: They are all connected… the fruit of the spirit.  Love, joy, peace, patience… they intertwine, grow together.  You can’t have one without the others.

Josh: Yeah, I might work hard to become the most patient person, but if I am all pent up and worried on the inside, am unloving, patience is just a mask.  I would be fake.  When we focus on Jesus, we follow his footsteps, and believe we endure now for eternal results.

Question: So, do you see growth in your own lives and relationship in this area?

Lindsi and Josh: Yes.

Lindsi:  God has developed patience in me for you.  I don’t have to make a mountain out of a molehill everything that bothers me.  I can’t change you.

Josh: God convicted me of micromanaging. I’ve learned to step back and let you do things your way. I’ve learned to enjoy watching you grow and do things on your own. I used to get a lot more impatient because you wouldn’t do things the way I would—wanted.  I am still learning to shut up. 

Question: In your experience, what is patience? 

Lindsi:  Gentleness in my responses.  Things that bothered me before used to fester and fester and then I would blow up and we would get in fights about it.  I have learned that you will do things your own way.  Things aren’t done my way or in my time, but I have learned that nagging doesn’t get the job done.  It makes the situation worse, divides us, making us farther apart.

Josh: It is really similar, in a way.  I already said it, but I’ve grown to step back. That’s it for me, stepping back.  I think we have learned that together, but I needed to learn it more.  I used to interfere with how you did things.  I had to learn it was okay if it wasn’t my way. 

Lindsi: It is the same with our kids.  You cannot expect a six year old to behave like a responsible 20-year old.  You have to gently walk with him and somethings will need repeating again and again and again.  Patience is when you realize browbeating doesn’t work…. It seems like all the fruit of the Spirit can be applied to the same situation.

Question: What is most difficult about patience in regard to parenting?

Lindsi:  That it never ends.  It isn’t like I can be patient enough times and then be done. I have to keep on.

Josh: If something is eating me up inside and the kids get in trouble, I could respond impatiently toward them, but the anger might be from something else.  I hate that.  God is changing that in me.

Question: Do you have a favorite Bible verse about patience?

Lindsi:  James 5:8 – You too be patient; strengthen your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is near.

Josh: 2nd Peter 3:9 – The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.

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The Fruit of the Spirit (Pt.4): Peace

Peace is sought after by leaders of the world like the elusive Bigfoot, but no one can ever seem to find it. Despite bumper-stickers proclaiming peace, signs promoting peace and tattoos making the ultimate statement for peace, it still eludes the world. Yet the Bible makes the bold declaration to the followers of Jesus: “The peace of God that passes all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Phil 4:7)

But if you are normal there are times when that peace seems to elude you, too. When bills are due, the baby is sick, the car won’t run, the job is hard, etc. you can easily begin to wonder, “Where’s the peace?” Oswald Chambers said it so well, “Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of God.”

When we make our focus the Lord Jesus Christ, when we keep our eyes on Him and our heart aligned with His will, we will find that we have a peace beyond understanding guarding our hearts. One person said it this way, “Look at Christ and the dove of peace flies in—look at the dove of peace and it flies away.” We don’t focus on the peace, we focus on the Christ.

Two statues on a street in New York City help to illustrate the point. On the RCA building is a statue of Atlas struggling to hold the world on his shoulders. Across the street is St. Patrick’s Cathedral. There a small statue of Jesus shows Him holding the entire world in one hand. Make peace your focus and you have a heavy load to bear, too heavy, really. But make Jesus your focus and he’ll carry the burden for you. “My yoke is easy, my burden is light, “Jesus says.

Life is challenging but Jesus gives us an unexplainable peace in the midst of all the chaos. Just like the eye of a hurricane, we can be surrounded by destruction but calm on the inside. It is a fruit of the Spirit so enjoy your privilege in Christ.


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